Thursday, December 15, 2022

Celebrate the Losses of 2022

The game came down to the last seconds.

Down by three, we scored on a layup. Now a 1-point game. And then, it was over. A narrow 1-point loss in the championship game for our middle school boys team.


One started crying, then another. It caught on like something infectious and suddenly parents were tearing up as well. As one of the coaches for the team, I wondered what we could have done differently. I questioned what coaching decisions we could have made that would have changed the outcome.

I also realized the incredible opportunity that losing gives us. In middle-school basketball. In life.

It was only with the loss that we saw how much the players really cared about each other and their team. I had never seen middle school boys hug like that!

The following day, I had another realization. The two teams were basically equal, as evidenced by the final score. However, the winning team, trophy in hand, walks away with very little introspection about how they can improve. Human nature is such that when we win, we don’t think that way.

On the other side, our team is a group of coaches and players asking what we did wrong, what we would do different, and how we can get better. There is a fire to become a better player/coach thanks to the 1-point differential where we were on the losing side.

It is a gift that comes with our losses – the desire to learn how we can improve and grow.

I share this today, as we naturally turn toward the year that was and look at what we learned. Celebrate the wins of 2022, absolutely. But take some time to look at the losses as well, as that is where the gifts of learning and growth are to be found. Take time to dissect how losses this year have made you a better person. You may discover a few losses that were so painful that you never took the time to see how you could use them for a positive purpose; if so, do that now.

A simple exercise you can try as well:

1        * List 3 important losses from 2022

          * As you look at these together, now write about what these losses have taught you and how they make you a stronger, better person.

Happy holidays to everyone!

                                                In health,

                                                (Proud) Losing Coach Anthony



3 comments:

  1. It is difficult to lose but such an important part of life to learn a lesson from that loss.

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  2. A great idea for self reflection! Happy holidays to you and thank you for the gifts you bring us through this Blog.

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  3. Perhaps we can learn important lessons in both losing and winning.
    Was the glory of the win contingent on the defeat of the opponent? Does being a winner make us feel superior to the other? Here lies the important lesson of winning. May we find a way for all of us to be winners...HAPPY HOLIDAYS

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